A Conversation About Gender & Sexuality | Essence of A Woman

Last week we said a man reflects God to the world by remembering what’s important and moving to make a difference. 

This was developed from the words Zakar and Arsen, used in Scripture. 

Women: 

  • Neqevah - to invite relationally

  • ezer kenegdo - to come along side in strength (same words used of God through OT

  • A women reflects God to the world by inviting and nourishing life-giving connection with others and offering strength.

Angie, what do you think of these two things: 

  • Core fear: Women: to be rejected; to be inadequate

  • Core desire to be noticed & known

As a man, I need to better understand your world and what it looks like to live as a women in society. 

    • Men, what do you do to protect yourself from women regularly?

    • Women, what do you do to protect yourself from men regularly?

   DEVELOPING FEMALE LEADERS pg 89 

You worked right out of college in ministry. Tell us what it’s been like working as a women in a predominantly male environment. 

You are now 37.... knowing what you know now, what would you tell your college self? 

- What would you tell your single, 25 year old self? (Your relationship with the Lord will look different with each season and that is okay, Topsy Keenan - no soul mate) 

  • There is so much emphasis and pressure on men and women to find the right person and get married. So much focus is put on being in a relationship instead of being the kind of person you would want to be in a marriage.

  • How can a women stand confidently, with self respect on her own? (with out being connected to a man/other)

      • Modesty

      • Purity

      • Community

You’ve worked with women for the last decade in a variety of different contexts:

  • What are the most destructive things women do to one another?

      • Negative self talk, competition, sabotaging community by manipulation or with a boyfriend, cutting one another down/gossip, giving our opinion without being asked

  • Healthy

      • build one another up, encourage each other, challenge, positive self talk, stop talking and listen.

      • Jen Hatmaker quote

  • What are a few things you want young women to know?

      • Identity/knowing who you are above all things

      • Healthy boundaries in relationships: physically & emotionally, what you allow others to speak over you.

Sit with the same core questions as men at the end.... 

  1. What is God like? - How are you engaging God on an intimate level?

  2. What story am I in? - Are you living in a way that is inviting, nourishing, and offering strength or closed off, sad,

  3. Who am I? - Where are finding your identity and value from?

  4. What is my frontier? - How is God captivating, nourishing and maturing you?

Laura Furman